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variousqueerthings · 1 year ago

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really been exploring the concept of aplatonic, but i do worry it'll alienate people from me... it's just the sense that the way i perceive people and my relationships with them as important comes from something that is not unemotional, but so outside of anything i have ever really been able to understand via dominant concepts. i've been exploring the limitations and vagueness of a word like love for myself and come up still very confused and distanced from it. so now i start to wonder what is it i do "feel" and does it even need to be calculated and defined so particularly? but in the meantime aplatonic concepts do seem to be exploring this in ways i dont see elsewhere in queer spaces, never mind more mainstream. it's interesting. it deserves some thinking about

#i think ive always been quite scientific about my relationships #what are our primary drives with one another what do our particular relationship structures look like how do we #exchange mutually beneficial levels of need dependent on said structures etc.#i have some friends for whom the word love in a friendship is very important #and i do use it i have no qualms/visceral negativity but i think it's something i do for them to use a word that they recognise #even though it's not a word i think describes anything -- it's like a complicated sport that ive not understood the rules of #and people don't really explain the rules they explain the way the sport makes them feel specifically #me #personal #aromantic #queer stuff #aro stuff #nd stuff

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